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Children of Suicide: Growing Up in the Shadows of Loss
Children of Suicide One of my saddest memories as a trauma specialist was conducting a group therapy session for children. A Christmas...
Hilary Valdez
3 days ago4 min read
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Conflict of Ideals: Effective Strategies for Resolving Disputes and Embracing Growth
“What’s right today is wrong tomorrow. It all depends on where you are; It all depends on when you are; It all depends on what you feel;...
Hilary Valdez
Mar 303 min read
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Self-Management & Stress: Transform Your Mindset, Build Resilience, and Improve Emotional Well-Being
Self-Management & Stress As we know, defensive behavior leads to resisting change. Stress management involves recognizing, accepting, and...
Hilary Valdez
Mar 213 min read
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Conflict Resolution Lessons: A Federal Investigator’s Shocking Experience
Conflict Resolution Lessons Decades ago, when I was a Federal Investigator with the Department of Justice in Washington, D.C., I attended...
Hilary Valdez
Mar 114 min read
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The Male Challenge: Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs for Personal Growth & Stronger Relationships
Self-limits are imposed by habit. Some bad habits are connected to a negative self-image. It is difficult achieve personal growth past...
Hilary Valdez
Mar 13 min read
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Emotional Resilience: Finding the Courage to Be Yourself
Finding the Courage to Be Yourself The choices we make in connection with everyday thoughts, feelings, and behavior result in either...
Hilary Valdez
Feb 204 min read
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Life Adjustments: Overcoming Change, Building Resilience, and Finding Growth
When I was single, the bumper sticker on my car read: “Happiness is Being Single.” After a few years, that bumper sticker was replaced...
Hilary Valdez
Feb 124 min read
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How Psychological Maintenance Builds Resilience and Happiness
“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third, by...
Hilary Valdez
Jan 294 min read
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Finding inner peace: Mental Notes with Hilary Valdez
”The aim of psychoanalysis is to relieve people of their neurotic unhappiness so that they can be normally unhappy.” -Sigmund Freud As a...
Hilary Valdez
Jan 183 min read
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A New Beginning: Embracing Growth, Connection, and Renewal
Here we are. Another year. Another chance at self-renewal. Now is the time to mend relationships and friendships. Making the effort to be...
Hilary Valdez
Jan 93 min read
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Self-Acceptance and Realization: Unlocking Your True Potential
Growing up in New York City, I would wander through Wall Street, staring at the American flags displaying the symbols of freedom,...
Hilary Valdez
Dec 20, 20244 min read
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Fatherhood is a journey of endless commitment
“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” - Sigmund Freud, psychoanalyst Fatherhood: A...
Hilary Valdez
Dec 8, 20244 min read
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The Masculinity Crisis: Rethinking Fatherhood, Marriage, and Modern Challenges
A long time ago, when I was operating at the Neanderthal level of consciousness, I had a bumper sticker on my car that said: “Happiness...
Hilary Valdez
Nov 21, 20243 min read
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Understanding Our Thoughts and Unlocking Human Potential
Humans experience a constant stream of thoughts, averaging 48 thoughts per minute or 50-70 thousand thoughts per day. Unfortunately,...
Hilary Valdez
Nov 5, 20242 min read
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From Honeymoon to Heartbreak: The Silent Cycle of Domestic Violence
During the honeymoon phase of a relationship, happiness and hope prevails for the prospect of a future life together. In the beginning,...
Hilary Valdez
Oct 11, 20244 min read
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The highway of life: Finding Yourself Through Loss, Facing Fear, and Embracing Change
When I was in the sixth grade, I was eager to discover the world. Where do I fit in? What should I do? My parents were super religious,...
Hilary Valdez
Sep 26, 20243 min read
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Breaking the Emotional Straightjacket: Men, Relationships, Snags, and Fear
An open loving relationship is about being vulnerable with your partner and accepting oneself. If you’re a guy, you don’t want to be just...
Hilary Valdez
Sep 19, 20244 min read
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Navigating Modern Masculinity: A Father's Guide to Raising Boys in a Changing World
In the changing landscape of modern society, young men struggle with the complexities of masculinity and personal identity. If you’re a...
Hilary Valdez
Sep 11, 20243 min read
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The Masculine Paradox: How Group Therapy for Men Unlocks Compassion and Transforms Lives
After countless hours of conducting group therapy for men, it is safe to say that we live in a world filled with complexities and...
Hilary Valdez
Sep 4, 20242 min read
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The Masculine Journey: Struggles with Vulnerability and Identity
Men and women want the same thing: to feel good about themselves, to feel worthwhile, and to be loved. We all need about the same amount...
Hilary Valdez
Aug 28, 20244 min read
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